“If you’re wondering whether a choice is wise or not, don’t search your mind for a rational argument. Instead, hold each option in your attention, then feel its effect on your body and emotions. When something’s wrong for you, you’ll feel constriction and tightness. The wise choice leads to feelings of liberation, even exhilaration.” ~ Martha Beck
For most of my life, I was taught to make decisions from my head – I used my intellect. I would make a list of pros and cons. Then I would weigh the pros and cons and sometimes give a numerical value to each pro and con and total up the values for each side. I am an analytical person and I could take any big decision I had to make and put it into a spreadsheet and determine the best solution.
Lately, I am learning not to make all of my decisions with my head. I am using my heart and gut to make decisions. I still consider the rational logic considerations from my head. But, I also listen to my heart and I feel the emotions inside my body from each of the possible outcomes and see which one feels better to me. I look for the feelings of constriction and liberation as tools to help me make my decisions. I also use my gut for decision-making – it is that inner knowing from my core being. When I have a big decision now, I make sure that I am coming from a good space and I listen to my body and the emotions I feel and I also listen to the wisdom of the universe that comes when I am in a peaceful and quiet space. I meditate on the decision and I don’t always get the answer during meditation, but if I come from a place of peace, I receive the signs of which decision would serve me the best. Sometimes my gut has a different solution than my head, but when I look deeper, it is usually because my ego has gotten involved and I am afraid or scared of a particular solution. With a meditation and mindfulness practice, I have learned to listen and trust my intuition. I use my head, heart and gut to make decisions.
Do you make decisions from your head, your heart or your gut? Which works best for you and why?
Peggy Steffens is an artist and Chopra Certified Meditation Instructor
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