“How much of this is hard because of the situation, and how much of it is hard because I am seeing it as hard or I am making it hard?” You might be surprised to find that struggle is the offspring of perception and projection more than reality. Then ask yourself, “If I were willing to let this be easy, how would I be approaching this differently?” If you can discover a vantage point even a bit freer than the one you have been holding, you will take a significant step from struggle to peace.” ~ Alan Cohen
I went golfing with a friend and learned that I was what Alan Cohen calls a “Hardaholic.” My friend got me to realize that for a woman I was a good golfer. My problem was my perception, I usually play with men who crush the ball and my other women role models are LPGA players on TV who also crush the ball. I do not crush the ball, yet neither did my friend and she had an amazing round of golf. She hit the ball down the fairway, chipped to the green and putted the ball in the hole. My perception was that I needed to crush the ball and hit it hard, when in reality; I need to come from a different vantage point and quit struggling to hit the ball far and work on accuracy. I was making the situation hard because of my perception of reality and in my reality I do not hit like a man or professional women golfers.
Mindful living has me at peace on the golf course. During this round as I struggled, I never got upset or compared myself to the other golfers in my group who were all much better. I just enjoyed watching my friend play a terrific round of golf and I was happy for her. I loved being out in the sunshine and admiring the beauty of nature. But, I learned a great lesson today and I will approach the game from a different mindset and see if I can bring even more peace to the game. Always be open as you never know who will be your teacher and what lesson you will learn!
Are there any areas of your life where you are a hardaholic?
How can you change your perception so you can move from struggling to peace?
Peggy Steffens is an artist and Chopra Certified Meditation Instructor
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